10 of the Worst Things About Trying To Get Your Ex Back

After a breakup, you probably have friends and family members gladly offering their advice and support. You’ll likely listen to whatever it is they tell you, in the hopes that following their advice will rid you of a heavy heart.

In reality, if you are not ready to move on after a breakup, there’s no one on this planet who can actually help you.

And if you’re still hopelessly in love with your ex, even after things did not work out between the two of you, where does that leave you? Should you forget it like a bad dream, or do something meaningful about it?

If you think there is something you can do to get your ex back, and that getting them back will be worth it, you should do it. Just remember, putting a broken relationship back together will not be easy. Be prepared for challenges and difficult circumstances.

Here are ten things that you can expect to deal with when trying to get your ex back:

#1. You Push Your Ex Further Away

If it was a messy breakup, you will want to take some time apart before you consider getting back with your ex. While no one is likely to say they had a “smooth” breakup, the intensity of any breakup varies.

If you try to get your ex back too soon after the breakup, it could cause them to pull away even more. Your ex may even shut you out completely.

#2. Opposition From Friends And Family

Your friends and family might not approve of your decision to get back with your ex. After all, they’ve seen you suffer, and they won’t want to see you go through the same thing again. They care about you, and only want the best for you.

If your friends and family don’t like the idea of you getting back with your ex, sincerely explain what you’re thinking, and how you’re feeling to them. Hopefully they will be more supportive of your decision once they understand it.

#3. Bad Memories and Feelings Resurface

You may not realize this until you actually start trying to get your ex back, but any bad memories and bitter feelings you had before will eventually resurface. These memories can have a very strong impact on how you go about reconnecting.

If you’re not ready to deal with these negative feelings, getting back together with your ex will be difficult.

#4. Moments of Anxiety and Frustration

If you think you can just lay out a step-by-step plan for getting your ex back, you’re wasting your time. It’s hard to tell how your ex will react, how you will react, and just what the situation in general will be like.

Be ready for all kinds of anxious and infuriating moments that will test your decision to get back together in the first place.

#5. Same Problems, Different Days

When two people who love each other decide to part ways, there were some very serious reasons behind it. Whatever was wrong, or didn’t work between the two of you in the past will persist in some ways when you try to get back together with your ex.

Don’t expect all of your problems to just disappear if you get back together. If you’re serious about getting your ex back, try to discuss your problems openly and honestly with them. Just make sure you don’t let the conversation turn into another fight.

#6. Your Ex Is Not Interested

Just because you want to give the relationship a second chance, that doesn’t mean that your ex is also willing to do the same. Your ex may not be interested in trying to work things out, or getting back together. You have to be prepared for this kind of response, no matter how painful it is.

#7. Your Ex Behaves Indifferently

If it was not a mutual breakup, chances are things won’t remain cordial between the two of you. Don’t expect a warm welcome right after a breakup. However, if you’re able to deal with this initial attitude of indifference, you might just find a way back into your ex’s heart.

#8. Be Ready For Disappointments

Your ex may not be the same person you think they are. Sometimes it’s hard to believe that the person you just broke up with is the same person you fell for. If you are in a state of denial, you’ll be faced with the same issues that led to the breakup in the first place.

#9. Your Ex Has Already Found Someone Else

You may not know it, but your ex could already be dating someone else. In which case, it will be very difficult to get your ex back. Even if it’s difficult, you should try to find out if they’re dating anyone before you try to get back with your ex.

If they are dating someone else, it’s better for you to find out now. Finding out when you’ve already started to think there’s a chance of getting back together will hurt even worse.

#10. Your Ex Thinks You’re Too Desperate

If your ex finds out that you’re eager to get back together, they may take it as a sign of desperation. Especially if they don’t feel the same way. You can avoid coming off as desperate by being patient, and going with the flow.

There is a fine line between persuasion and harassment, or for that matter, obsession. You should always be mindful about this when communicating with your ex. Otherwise, you might end up sending them the wrong signals, which can drive them further away.

Conclusion

It takes a lot to end a relationship, and a lot more to restart one. You cannot expect a smooth and uncomplicated journey. Before you decide to dive headfirst into getting your ex back, consider it carefully, and ask yourself if it’s the right thing for you.

In the end, if you feel that changing a few things about yourself can fix the relationship, and it’s worth the risks and effort, go for it.