How to Make Your Ex Interested in You Again

A broken relationship is difficult to mend but it is definitely not impossible. It will need a lot of effort from your side but you can surely fix your relationship and move ahead.

It may seem difficult to reignite the old feelings but you can always use your experiences and moments together to your advantage.

It will require patience and logic from your side before you proceed further in this arena. You will need to work upon yourself and all of the reasons that led to the breakup in the first place.

You need to be mentally prepared to face the way your ex responds because it is not going to be easy at first. Your ex might not be ready to open up to you immediately. You need to slowly and carefully make a place in your ex’s heart again.

When you decide that you want your ex back, you will have a long road ahead of you. You will need to work upon yourself and this relationship single-handedly. You need to be calm and objective in the process.

To make this journey easier for you, we have compiled a list of things that you can do to make your ex interested in you again.

So, what are you waiting for? Go get your ex back now.

1. Casually Get in Touch with Them

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To make your ex interested in you again, the most important thing is to connect with your ex. It can be tricky, so make it as natural as possible. You shouldn’t sound needy and desperate because it will make your ex run away. You need to keep it cool and casual and not make it awkward for your ex.

You can connect with them by sharing some piece of information that you know your ex would be interested in. It can be anything like, “Did you see the last episode of Game of Thrones?.”

You should start a conversation about something that you both share a history with and you are familiar with the subject.

This kind of message is bound to create an urge to reply because even your ex knows that you can relate to it. The moment you succeed in making your ex interested in talking to you about a topic, you can slowly take things forward with regular texting.

Texting them regularly will make you get back into the daily routine of your ex. You and your ex were already used do that but it obviously stopped after the breakup.

The moment you start chatting again, your ex will naturally fall into the routine as if the breakup never happened. This will open up an opportunity for you to get your ex back.

2. Make New Moves

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You and your ex have known each other for sometime before you broke up. Your ex knows all of your moves. That’s what made them interested in you in the first place.

But the same moves might not work the second time. Your ex might be ready with a shield to block the effects of all of your moves.

You will have to be innovative and think out-of-the-box. You will have to do things going out of your character to get the attention of your ex.

This does not mean that you should do something outrageous. You can take initiatives which you never took before. You should try to ignite that spark that can make your ex interested in you again.

You can do things that your ex might never expect from you such as booking the restaurant that you don’t like but your ex does. This will show them that you are ready to do things that you were not willing to do before. Your new moves will surely make your ex interested in you again. But be discreet and mysterious in the process.

A new, mysterious version of you might be hard to resist for them. Your ex might want to discover more about you.

They might think that there is more to you than what they knew and believed. This can help make your ex interested in you again and even take initiatives to get back together.

3.  Be Happy and Positive

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When you decide that you want to get your ex back, it is very important to stay happy and positive during the entire process. It may take a toll on you because you might not see the results of your efforts immediately. But you will need to keep your cool and not get anxious.

If you are happy and positive, you project that aura around you. People also like to meet you and be with you.

Your ex will most likely notice your positive aura and it will definitely make your ex interested in you again. Your positive attitude can act as a magnet to attract your ex towards you.

When you are happy from within, the happiness reflects in all of your actions. You will not make any hasty decisions that can jeopardize your relationship with your ex. This will also help make a positive impact on your ex.

They are likely to think that you are not desperate. It can make your ex miss you because everyone wants to be around a happy person.

Your ex might think that you have moved on and that can act as a trigger sometimes. Your ex might feel like reconnecting with you because you are not whiny and clingy. Your confidence will make your ex look up to you, want you, and maybe, start over.

4. Surprise Your Ex

You should surprise your ex, obviously within the boundaries of decency. The element of surprise can help make your ex interested in you again. It will help you create a mysterious aura that can pique their interest in you.

However, this advice is not for everyone because not everyone likes surprises. Your ex might be the kind of person who hates surprises. If that’s the case, then you need to be careful and not overdo it. Your surprise might backfire.

The easiest way to surprise someone is to do something that they want but couldn’t do due to other commitments. So, you should casually find out that one thing that your ex wants.

For example, they may want to visit a concert. You can book the tickets and ask them to come along on the pretext that you have an extra ticket. This will be smooth and not make it awkward between the two of you because your ex is just helping you utilize the extra ticket.

Things like these will definitely surprise your ex. They might think whether you actually did it for your ex or was it just a coincidence. The good thing here is that you might succeed in making your ex think about you.

You should remember that timing is everything. Once the right time is gone, the same thing might not be as effective as it is meant to be.

5. Work on Your Relationship

Once you have caught the attention of your ex, it is very important that you improve your relationship with your ex. You already broke up once and you don’t want that to happen again. You need to work on the cause of the breakup and get rid of it.

You need to show your ex that you are an improved version of yourself. You need to assure them that you are working on yourself and you will not repeat the same mistakes. You need to show your ex that this relationship means a lot to you and you are willing to work for it.

Breakups can leave a scar on the mind. You need to make sure that you and your ex heal from those bad experiences and scars. You need to build that trust again if you really want to keep the relationship going.

Once your ex feels that you are a changed person and you are willing to work on the relationship, they will get the assurance they need. Your ex will start taking interest in you again and you can then try to convert this interest into love.

6. Make Your Ex Feel Jealous

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Making your ex feel jealous is not as simple as it may sound. This is one step, if not taken carefully, can backfire in a really bad way. This is also one step that is not meant for everyone.

You might feel that you are making your ex jealous. But instead, your ex might think that you have moved on. So, you should proceed with caution.

There are many ways to make your ex feel jealous. You can casually hang out with friends of the opposite sex and post pictures on social media. It will look like you are having a good time and you are over the breakup.

If your ex is finding it hard to cope up with the breakup, then such pictures are bound to make them feel jealous. However, you need to be careful while trying to make your ex feel jealous. You should not seem inconsiderate.

You should try to understand how your ex is feeling. The best way to figure this out is to ask a common friend. You need to step back and extinguish the fire once your ex starts feeling jealous.

Jealousy can make your ex interested in you again and it can trigger the long-lost feelings they had for you. But this might not be a very healthy way to begin the second chapter of your relationship. You need to work on your relationship to make it stronger.

7. Highlight Your Good Points

You have spent a lot of time with your ex, which you can use in your favor. You know your ex better than the people in their life. You need to assure your ex that both of you are more compatible than anyone they are likely to date in life.

Your ex loved you for a reason. You need to highlight those good points about you when you are together. All of your good points can help remind your ex what they are missing.

Relationships are like investments. You should assure your ex that you are a good investment. And by “good investment,” we don’t mean that you are financially sound. We mean that you are emotionally rich and you are a good fit for them.

Any person would prefer to have a caring, considerate, and loving partner over a rich partner. You need to make your ex realize that you are the best choice for them.

You need to emphasize why both of you make a good team together. You need to remind your ex that you complement each other. You cover up all of their flaws and they make up for yours. You are like Yin and Yang. And when put together, you are inseparable.

8. Groom Yourself

You need to make your ex interested in you again. One of the most effective ways to attract your ex is to groom yourself. You should change your style, your wardrobe collection, and maybe your hairstyle as well.

Your ex should find you attractive. You can work out to lose those extra pounds that you gained from all of the binge eating after your breakup. Working out and toning those muscles can be tough at first. But it will make you feel good about yourself in the long run.

You should change your clothing style to highlight your newly-toned body. You can also visit the salon to polish your appearance. You can try to impress your ex by your new look. They might find it hard to resist your groomed avatar.

A well-groomed appearance is likely to boost your confidence. It will make you less anxious about yourself. Your ex might find you charming all over again and this might act as a stepping stone to get them back.

9. Connect with Your Ex’s Friends

When you were in a relationship, you might have had common friends. Many times, you tend to break contact with these common connections after a breakup. But you shouldn’t.

You can connect with your ex’s friends again who you were also friends with. This will help you gain an insight into your ex’s life. If you know the emotional state your ex is in, you can think of ways which can make your ex interested in you again.

You tend to get good advice from people who know your ex. They will be able to help you make your way back into your ex’s life. They can also act as messengers if your ex doesn’t respond to your texts.

You need an inside source that tells you if your ex is going through any hardships. You can appear at the nick of time and help your ex through difficult times. This will make you appear more responsible and mature. Your ex might start trusting you again.

Though you need to be careful because it is not necessary that your ex’s friends will be in your favor. You need to talk them through and show them that you are a changed person. Once their friends are assured that both of you are perfect for each other, it will be a piece of cake to convince your ex too.

10. Show Interest in Their Hobbies

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Every person has a hobby and interest. As a couple, it is not necessary that you share the same interests and hobbies. But when you want to make your ex interested in you again, you need to show interest in their interests. That’s because everyone likes to share their interests with their partners.

This will give a common topic for conversation. They might be into romantic novels and movies while you might hate them. But you need to bear with it and sometimes read a book they love or watch a movie they want so that you have common stuff to talk about.

It will surely make your ex realize your effort because they are aware that you don’t like romantic movies and books. Your ex will see you in a new light. They will realize that you are willing to go that extra mile to make this relationship work.

Doing things together will help make your relationship stronger. You can join the same gym or go to the same yoga class. It will give you an excuse to hang out together. The more often your ex sees you, the better because out of sight is out of mind.

11. Talk Things Out

Your relationship has some unresolved issues that need to end immediately. The only way of doing that is by talking things out. You will never know what your ex feels if you don’t talk about the past and resolve the breakup issues.

Everyone has their own perspective about the breakup. Your perspective might not be the same as your ex’s. The moment you put out your feelings, your ex will definitely respond to those feelings. Your ex might not agree to it but having a dialogue can surely help clarify both points of view.

If you are the type who doesn’t express feelings, then you will have to break out of your shell and pour your heart out.

If it is difficult to articulate your feelings into words, then you should prepare for it. You can write down the points that you want to discuss. Once you start discussing, let the conversation take its natural course. You shouldn’t force your topics on your ex.

Your ex might not be ready to discuss things with you. If that is the case, then you need to give your ex some space. Let them be ready to talk and then proceed further.

If you show respect to your ex’s boundaries, this might make your ex interested in you again. It is a lengthy process but it will surely bear fruitful results.

12. Be Calm and Give Space

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You have been trying with all of your might and your ex is also noticing your efforts. But it is not necessary that you will get a response immediately. You will have to be patient in the process. You need to give space to your ex to process all of the recent events.

Giving space is also good for your own mental health. When you step back and see things from a distance, you see them more clearly. You will be able to evaluate all of your moves and their effectiveness. If you have made all of the right moves, you will definitely get positive results.

Your ex will respect you for this time and space. This will make you look mature and responsible because this it’s very difficult to sit back when you want to get them back. If you are too pushy and texting all of the time, your ex might get fed up of you.

Giving space can make your ex miss your presence in their life. Distance often makes the heart grow fonder. It might make your ex interested in you again.

Conclusion

Before you think of a plan to get your ex back, you need to be clear in your head that you have resolved all of the mistakes of the past. You need to let go of all of the hurtful feelings to make a fresh start. If you are stuck in the past, you will never be able to convince your ex to move ahead.

You need to remind your ex of all of the good times that you have shared. Your ex will respond to this sense of familiarity. People want to go back home to the person they know and love. You can use it to your advantage.

Breakups can be tough but most of the times both the parties are willing to work together because of this sense of familiarity.

We hope that these tips help you win your love back. So don’t get discouraged if you don’t get a favorable response immediately. Instead, keep trying.

You will need to understand the feelings of your ex. Putting your ex ahead of you will make her feel special and will definitely make your ex interested in you again.

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