My Ex is Dating Another Girl – What To Do To Get My Ex Back

Is your ex dating another girl?

It feels bad to hear that, doesn’t it? You feel that you are still stuck in the moping around phase, but he has already moved on.

This might leave you feeling bitter and you may feel like he never loved you as much as you loved him. But, you should not jump to conclusions because you are feeling low.

It could be that this new girlfriend is only a rebound relationship. He wants to get over you, and diverting his attention to a new girl is his way of coping with the breakup.

Whatever the reason, you will have to swing back in action. You cannot lock yourself up in the room and cry over him.

If you want to get your ex back, then you will have to make it happen. We know that your ex is dating another girl, but there are ways that you can make him see that he has made a wrong decision.

Patience is your biggest ally right now. Losing your mind and acting crazy will not help you get him back nor will showing him that you are lost without him.

He is with another girl, but by following certain steps you can show him that you are a better person for him. In this blog, we will talk about the things that are in your control and the actions that you can take to get your ex back.

So read on to find out what you can do if your ex is dating another girl.

1. Face the Harsh Reality

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It is a difficult truth, but you will have to face the reality that your ex is dating another girl. You don’t like it and you want to do something to resolve the situation. But the fact is that things are really not in your control right now.

You cannot change the fact that your ex is free to date anyone. But, don’t give up hope just yet.

What does that mean?

We are just telling you that there are other ways. But first, accept the reality and then only you will gain the courage to deal with it.

Right now is the time to work on your strengths. You know him better than anyone else and you also know what will attract him.

Use this knowledge to your advantage. There is no logic in being heartbroken and moping around right now. Now is the time to take some action.

We are not saying that you spring into action immediately. We first want you to take some time and let the reality sink in.

Do things that will take your mind off the thought of your ex and his new girlfriend. Meet some friends, go out, and talk to people who care about you.

Once you feel that you are feeling fine and are now ready to do something about the situation, then only take a step forward.

If you get messed up in your head, then you will never be able to make the right decisions. You need to be calm if you want to get your ex back.

2. Don’t Do Anything That You’ll Regret

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Another part of facing the harsh reality is, to not do anything that will ruin your chances of getting back with your ex. Your ex is dating another girl, but, you going crazy over the fact will not help your case.

There are some things that you will have to avoid, even if the jealousy is killing you from inside. Avoid these mistakes if you want to get him back.

• Don’t call him and beg him to come back to you. This act will make him lose respect for you. If he has an ounce of affection for you after the breakup, it will be gone if he sees this desperate side of you.
• Don’t call his friends and try to find out how serious his current relationship is. It might be a rebound, but asking his friends will send a wrong message to your ex. You have to accept the fact that your ex is dating another girl and knowing how serious the relationship is not going to change anything.
• You must be feeling resentful towards him but when you see him control your anger. Do not create a scene in front of him. If you do, then he will see you as an immature and vengeful person.
• Do not get into unhealthy habits. When you feel that things are not in your control, you might turn to bad habits that may be difficult to get rid of later. Don’t do that. Right now, you need to keep calm and think logically.

It is very easy to let anger get a hold of you and do things in the heat of the moment. But these actions will not go away once you do it. This is a delicate situation and you need to deal with it with patience.

3. Reflect on the Reason for Your Breakup

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Now is the time to reflect upon what happened in the past. Take some time away from him and think about the reason for your breakup.

Right now, your ex is dating another girl. But, if you want him back, you will have to come up with the solution alone.

Here are a few questions that you need to answer to come up with a solution:

• Who initiated the breakup and why?
• Was the break up mutual?
• Was it a bitter breakup?

It is important that you are clear in your head about what happened and why it happened. If you have the solution to your problems, then it will be easy for you to convince him to come back to you.

If you were at fault, then you can take this time to improve yourself and show him that you are capable of change.

If it was his fault, then show him that you are ready to forgive and forget. Assure him that things can work out if you both are willing to work towards giving your relationship another chance.

Once you are ready with a solution, then approach him as a friend. Remember that he has already moved on, so you will have to make a way back into his life, slowly and gradually.

Wondering how you can do that

Read the next point to understand how you can implement it.

4. Stay in Touch, As a Friend

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Out of sight is out of mind. Initially, you will have to maintain some distance but do not completely disappear from his life.

After some time has passed, approach him and see if he at least wants to stay friends with you. Tell him that you miss talking to him and that you want him in your life as a friend.

He might suspect your intentions, but you will have to assure him that you just seek his friendship and nothing else.

Call him or text him, whatever suits you to break the ice between the two of you. Slowly ease him into talking to you. Once he is back to his normal self around you, you can ask him to meet in person.

The reason we want you to be friends with him is that you need to be close to him and be there for him as a friend. It might not be easy for you when you see your ex dating another girl. But you will have to look at the bigger picture here.

You will not be able to break them up by planning something outrageous, but you sure can manipulate his thoughts by simply being his friend. And, sometimes, that is all it takes to make him realize that you are a better match for him.

5. Don’t Talk Trash About His Girl

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Once you are friends with him, you will have to tread carefully. There will be many occasions where you will get the opportunity to talk trash about his girlfriend. But you will have to control that urge.

Your ex is dating another girl, but talking ill about his girlfriend will not help you bring him back to you. It will do more harm than good.

Even if he complains about her, you don’t have to agree with him. You just need to be a good listener and give him a shoulder to cry on.

No, we are not asking you to play cupid between your ex and his new girlfriend. We are just asking you to wait and watch. You will get ample chances to win him back when the time is right.

Right now, you just need to win his trust. You should be the person he confides in when things don’t work between him and his girlfriend.

6. Show Him That You Are Doing Good

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Your ex is dating another girl and the only way you can grab his attention is by showing that you are doing fine without him.

Now that you are his friend, you will have plenty of chances to show him that you are over him and are doing well for yourself.

The only way you can show him that you are doing good is by actually making some major changes in your life and your personality.

The focus should be to make him miss you. He should see you and compare you to his current girlfriend. Every time he sees you, he should feel that you are a better choice for him.

You can do the following things or try some self-improvement tips to make him see the change in you.

• Start working out. You need to get in shape, in case you were not paying attention to yourself due to the breakup. You should try to get fit and lose those unnecessary pounds you gained.
• Take care of your looks. You might have neglected your looks thinking nothing matters, now that he is with someone else, but that is not true. How you look affects how you feel and if you let yourself go, you won’t get the confidence to win him back.
• Be happy around him. Do not bring up the past or the reasons for the breakup. He should feel positive when he is with you. This will make him remember all the good times he shared with you.
• Learn something new and boast about it to your ex. You can indulge yourself in all the hobbies and activities that you have been neglecting lately. This will help you be productive and will also show your ex that you get motivated by new challenges in life.

These things will make your ex realize that he is not the only purpose in your life. He might be thinking that the breakup will ruin you. But when he sees that you are happy without him, he will know that he was wrong.

Men get attracted to confident women. When he sees that you are shining and positive, he will feel attracted to you. He would want to be a part of your life.

Conclusion

Your ex is dating another girl and you will not be able to change this situation overnight. You will have to take careful steps and not do anything rash that will end your chances with him.

You have to be there as his friend and show him all your positive traits. Your actions should speak louder than words.

Fighting with his girlfriend or talking trash about his new girlfriend will not solve the purpose. You will have to control those urges and have the patience to win him over.

The fact that your ex is dating another girl is not the end for you. There is still hope if you act rationally and follow these tips.

We hope that these suggestions helped you in some way or the other. If you think that your situation is unique and you need help from us, then write to us. We will get back to you with the best possible solution to your problem.