My Girlfriend Cheated On Me: What Should I Do Now?

First things first, we are very sorry that your girlfriend cheated on you. You do not deserve this. Infidelity is the worst crime in a relationship. Your trust gets shattered and you do not know if you can trust your partner again. You feel betrayed and hurt.

You get confused about why this happened. Many emotions run through your head. You feel angry and helpless. You want to vent out your anger on your girlfriend. But before you take any irrational step and make irreparable damage, you need to think things through.

We know it can be tough but don’t worry cause we will help you get through this. We will not give cliched advice and ask you to move on, though it is the best option in most cases.

We will rather try to understand with you why it happened and whether the wreck of this relationship can get salvaged. If it can, we will help you save your relationship. So, read on…

1. Control Your Anger

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It is obvious that you will get angry when you find out that your girlfriend cheated on you. But you will have to control your anger and don’t let it get the best of you. Don’t go knocking on her door and yell outside her house. Don’t call her and spew curse words.

We totally understand your anger but calling her names and yelling at her will not solve the problem. It will get uglier and if by any chance she is regretting her act and thinking of coming back to you, she might change her mind.

Before you contact her you need to calm down and sort your emotions. You do not want to say something that you regret later. Anger can turn you into a monster and no matter how hurt you feel that is not how you should behave.

Express your anger but don’t make it ugly. Your girlfriend will know how hurt you are, but cursing and yelling will not help.

2. Don’t Act Desperate

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You are angry that your girlfriend cheated on you but you still love her and want her back. Your anger turns into desperation and you want to beg and cry in front of her. Don’t do that. The only thing worse than showing anger is, showing your desperation.

We know it is difficult for you to live without her but you have to remember that she made a mistake. If you quickly forgive her and ask her to come back to you, she will lose respect for you. She will not take you seriously and might even do it again.

Your girlfriend was wrong for cheating on you and you have the right to be angry. Suppress your longing for her else it will stop you from thinking straight. Once the clouds of desperation are clear, you will know what is right for you.

3. Take Time to Think

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We have talked about two important emotions that are bound to erupt once you find out that your girlfriend cheated on you, one is anger and the other is desperation. You need to control your emotions and disconnect to spend some time alone to think.

Your head is full of emotions right now and most of these emotions are negative. The one obvious thought in your head would be “Why did she do it?” Your negativity might make you believe that you are the cause when you are not.

You need time to wrap your head around the recent event and process thoughts and emotions. You need to think about the relationship and whether the two of you were happy in it. You need to figure out how much you love and cherish your girlfriend and whether you will be able to forgive her.

Take all the time in the world and figure out what is it that you want. You need to know how you feel about your girlfriend cheating on you. A few days later, if your anger vanishes and you start longing for her then you will know that you love her enough to forgive and start fresh.

4. Take Opinions

When you take some time to think, do take out some time to meet your friends and loved ones. Take their opinion and see what they think of the whole situation. Sometimes a third person’s neutral view can help you see things that you can’t see otherwise.

Taking opinions does not mean that you need to follow their advice as well. You can, or rather you should do what you want to do or think is the best of you. Taking advice from people will help you give a clear perspective of the situation and you can make the right decision.

When taking the opinions of others, be prepared for some harsh words. Your girlfriend cheated on you and the most obvious advice you will get from your friends will be to move on. It is tough to get over the betrayal and your friends will understand your pain. They would ask you to forget about her as it is not good to linger in pain.

In the end, it is your decision. You know your relationship the best and you can be one of those rare cases where things work out even after infidelity. But do talk and take opinions, it will help you clear your head and sort out your emotions.

5. Demand an Explanation

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Once you think that you have reached a place where you can talk things out with your girlfriend then it is time for you to demand an explanation. You need to know why your girlfriend cheated on you.

Talk to her and let her know how hurt and betrayed you feel. Ask her why did she do that, try to understand her point of view. Ask her if it was in the heat of the moment or she has feelings for that person.

Asking her questions will give you the clarity for your next step. If you think that she has moved on and is in love with this other person then there is no point for you in pursuing this conversation. You will have to be tough and walk out with dignity.

If by talking to her you realize how sorry she is then you need to ask what lead her to do it. If you want her back then you need an assurance that it will never happen again.

6. Forgive or Forget

Once you have talked things through you will know why your girlfriend cheated on you. Take some time to understand her point of view and process this information because you will need to make a rational decision. The future of your relationship depends on it.

You need to decide whether you want to forgive her and get back together or you want to forget her and move on with your life. If you decide to forgive her then remember that you cannot bring up this issue again. You will turn your relationship toxic if you bring up her cheating every time you both fight about something.

If you decide to forget and move on then you will have to disconnect all the ties with her. Delete her phone number and her social media account from your phone. If you keep seeing her then you will never be able to move on.

Though easier said than done, no matter what you decide it will be difficult to act upon it. You will have to stay strong and remind yourself that you don’t deserve infidelity. You deserve love and respect

Conclusion

Your girlfriend cheated on you and now it leads to three situations.

Firstly, she is sorry and wants you to forgive her. You need to decide whether you want to get back to her or not. If you are the kind of person who can forget about it and never bring it up again, then you should get back together.

You will have to remind yourself that she came back to you and she is sorry and to remain happy you will have to come to terms with her cheating on you.

Secondly, your girlfriend cheated on and she is sorry but she does not want to get back together. She probably has feelings for the person she cheated with. If that is the case then there is not much you can do.

Begging her to come back will ruin your dignity. She will not change her mind if you beg and cry because she has already done you wrong and ruined this relationship. You will have to swallow your pain and move on. It will be hard but that is the only way.

Thirdly, your girlfriend cheated on you and she is not sorry. She holds you responsible and plays a victim. Whatever the case, you need to remember that she is in the wrong. Infidelity is not the solution. This relationship is toxic for you and you need to walk away from it.

So these are the likely scenarios to happen if your girlfriend cheated on you. Remember to keep calm and think things through before you make a decision and be strong. In case you feel that your situation is rather rare, then do share it with us and we will try to help you with the best possible solution. Let us know by leaving your comments below.