How to Tell Your Crush You Like Them Without Freaking Them Out

Crushes are nerve-wracking. And so is the thought of having to tell your crush you like them.

Should you then suppress your feelings and move on, or do you admit to having feelings for them?

It’s a dilemma.

You like them so much that when they walk into a room, your heart races. You cannot stop thinking about them, and your mind creates numerous romantic scenarios where they sweep you off your feet.

But then you think about telling them and tremble. You are also not sure if the feeling is mutual.

What if you sound like a complete idiot, or they don’t reciprocate your feelings?

What if it gets awkward and you can no longer be friends?

The fear of rejection is real, and putting yourself out there can get scary. It makes you vulnerable, and it may seem easier just to avoid it and hope they notice you have feelings for them.

But what if you do not tell your crush you like them and end up regretting that decision forever?

What if they feel the same way too?

What if telling them becomes the beginning of all those romantic scenarios you’ve been dreaming of?

You won’t know until you tell your crush you like them.

And if they reject you?

Well, at least you will know. It will be the first step towards moving on from the crush and finding another love. Your life won’t end, and you will eventually recover from the pain.

You don’t want to miss an opportunity for love just because you chickened out.

It will hurt if they don’t feel the same way, but the torment of wondering if you did the right thing by not telling them will hurt even more.

This article will help if you are not sure how to tell your crush you like them.  It has tips on how to behave, how to get over your fear, and how to handle the whole situation.

Want to know more?

Read on to find out:

What Is the Best Way to Tell Your Crush How You Feel About Them?

I cannot guarantee that your crush feels the same about you, but not knowing will feel worse.

But before we can get into the tips, you need to stop thinking about rejection.

I know, it’s a possibility, but you cannot go in thinking that they will reject your proposal. Your crush may not love you back, but you should hope for the best outcome.

Are you still struggling?

Well, think about the most dangerous or scary thing you ever did. Before you did it, there was fear, right? But once you decided it was then or never, you got over that fear, right?

The same thing applies when telling your crush that you like them. You must block out the analytical thoughts, doubts, and fear.

Have you decided to go for it? Well, the following guide on how to tell your crush you like them will help:

1. Be Sure of Your Feelings

The first step before you can even tell your crush you like them is to understand your feelings. Make sure it’s not one of those crushes that only last a week.

In other words:

Are you crushing on them because you think they are fun, or do you see yourself having a relationship with them?

Once you know for sure that there is more than hormones at work, learn more about them. Talk to them and spend some time in their company to tell for sure if you like them.

How do you do this?

Well, are you friends with your crush, or do they not even know you exist?

If they don’t know you, then you have to try to become friends with them. It’s the only way to find out if you have anything in common.

So, how do you become their friend?

Join groups, classes, clubs, or organizations they are part of. If you have a mutual connection, ask them to tag you along when they go to hang out with them. Find a chance to talk to them or listen to conversations they have while talking in the group.

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Do they make you feel good about yourself? Do they have anything interesting to say? Are they interested in what you have to say?

Do you have anything in common, or are they just a pretty face?

A few conversations with them can help you decide if you still have a crush on them. Once you find out you still have feelings, the next thing to figure out is how to tell your crush you like them.

2. Show Interest

It’s time to show your ex that you are interested in them.

How do you do this?

Well, there are various ways to handle this, but they depend on your comfort zone. You can:

• Hold your crush’s gaze while in a room and smile. If they return the smile, then that’s a good sign.
• Give them full attention when they speak.
• Try to find ways to be close to them.
• Weave details of talks you’ve had in the past into current conversations.
• Flirt with them.

Doing this opens up the door for a conversation. It makes it easy to tell your crush you like them.

3. Choose the Right Moment to Tell Them

Once you guys have gotten to know each other, it’s time to tell your crush you like them.

But first, you need to find the right time and moment to do so.

You also need to make sure that circumstances allow you to tell your crush you like them.

What does this mean?

Some circumstances would require you to wait a little longer before you can tell them.

For example, if one of you is on the rebound. You should also not tell them if either one of you has experienced a recent death, injury, or serious illness.

You need to wait some time until your emotions and thoughts are in the right place.

Additionally, do not tell your crush you like them if they are currently in a relationship. Other awkward situations include if your crush is your boss, teacher, or if you are already in a relationship.

These circumstances could have profound consequences. It’s, therefore, necessary to think about them hard before you can tell your crush you like them.

4. Choose a Place and Ask Them Out

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Unfortunately, you cannot tell your crush you like them over text, or via the phone.

I know it can be hard, but this is one of the conversations you need to have face to face.

Remember, we are living in a world where people can screenshot messages.

Imagine if the whole issue goes wrong or they take it as a joke and share screenshots with their friends?

Worse still, they could post it on social media.

Devastating, right?

So man or woman up and do it in person.

Choose a casual setting. Maybe in the park, at the beach, or a not so crowded cafe. Find a place where you can both talk freely and openly.

Avoid choosing crowded places or romantic settings. It should be a place where you are both comfortable and free to leave without feeling duty-bound to stay.

You should also choose a time when your crush is stress-free. They should not be worrying about an upcoming test, upcoming promotion, or interview.

Instead, pick a time when you can be alone to talk for a while without one of you thinking about rushing off to do something else.

Now that you’ve chosen a venue, it’s time to ask them out.

Please don’t make it weird.

Casually ask them if they want to hang out later, go for a walk, or go for coffee.

Do not tell them you want to talk about something, otherwise they may freak out and not show up. Or they may force you to tell them right then instead of waiting until later to hear what you have to say.

5. Tell Your Crush You Like Them

The big moment you’ve been waiting for is finally here.

It’s time to tell your crush how you feel about them.

Once both of you are at the chosen location, initiate the conversation.

To avoid awkwardness, make your crush feel comfortable. You could start with a topic you both love, or make jokes.

Don’t overdo it, though.

Remember that at this moment, your crush must be wondering why you are alone.

Don’t stall for too long. The sooner you do it, the better. Waiting for too long will make you more nervous, and you are likely to start rambling on about non-related issues and that can make the conversation weird.

But also, don’t just blurt it out.

Instead, relax your body, and look them straight in the eye. Do not also seem too eager, stand too close, or look at the floor.

Then, starting with their first name, tell your crush you like them.

Simply tell them that you enjoy their company and think they are amazing. Let them know how much you like spending time with them and that you feel a connection.

Stop worrying about the words because, most of the time, when people try to plan the perfect thing to say, they end up blurting out something different.

Has that ever happened to you?

Well, it happens to most of us.

Just trust the words coming from your lips and heart and say how you feel.

If you are one of those people who clam up when nervous, practice what you will say beforehand. Find two or three things you like about them and start with those.

If you’re scared about how they will react, you can tell them that you would love to get to know them better.

What if things don’t go as planned?

It’s okay to try another time.

The conversation doesn’t have to be perfect the first time and may even come out on several occasions. Just remember to be gentle with yourself and be comfortable with the words you decide to use.

It’s also good to prepare for the possibility that they may not feel the same. Soften the blow of rejection by telling them that they do not have to respond right away. Tell them you respect them if they don’t feel the same way and you guys can go back to just being friends.

6. Act Accordingly

After you tell your crush you like them, give them space to process their feelings too.

They may respond immediately or ask for some time to think about it. That’s natural. Remember that your crush also has an obligation to their feelings and they have a choice in the matter.

Don’t demand an answer immediately. Instead, be cool and be patient.

7. Look to the Future and Stay Positive

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There are two probable outcomes when you tell your crush how you feel about them.

Outcome one: They like you too and would love to take it to the next level.

In this case, the two of you should explore the possibility of being exclusive and seeing each other more. However, don’t be pushy.

The exclusivity should be natural and not forced. You can start by being more than friends and see where the relationship takes you from there.

Outcome two: They don’t feel the same. It’s cool. At least now you know and can move on.

Try not to take it personally, and respect their decision. Do not get emotional or start arguing.

Instead, say something like, “That’s sad. But I’ll be okay. I do hope we can still be friends, though.”

If you need to, go to your room and cry for as long as it takes. Talk to friends, and take time to heal from the rejection. Then, get back to your life.

It may sting at the moment, but it doesn’t mean your life won’t continue. It actually frees you up to find someone new or enjoy time alone.

And, most importantly, you deserve to be with someone who feels the same way about you.

Are You Ready to Tell Your Crush You Like Them?

Stop analyzing each detail, feeling anxious, and obsessing over whether or not to tell your crush you like them.

Instead of this torture, pick the right moment, tell your crush you like them, and ask if they feel the same.

If they do, then your relationship can get started. If not, then life moves on.

However, not telling them sets you up for regret.

Imagine if your crush moved away without you ever telling them how you felt.

Or you watch as they start a relationship with someone who was bold enough to say how they felt.

Missed opportunities are upsetting, right?

Tell your crush you like them now and find out if they feel the same about you.

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