Text messages are a powerful way of communication. They don’t take much time and, a good message can put a smile on the receiver’s face. If a good message has that kind of effect, then a bad message will have equally bad effects.
You need to make sure you articulate your words in the right way when you plan to text to get your ex back. If you don’t, then things can go downhill for you.
There are a few things you have to keep in mind before you text to get your ex back. The first one is that some time should pass before you text your ex. You should not contact your ex immediately after the breakup. Let the break up sink in. If you will contact immediately, you will come off as possessive and not ready to accept the breakup.
This period of no contact should be about you. You should take some time off and think about what you expect from this relationship. Do you want your ex back? And if the answer is yes, then how should you proceed further. Think about all the things that you would like to discuss with your ex to resolve this breakup.
All the things that you think and feel should reflect in your messages. We will help you with the flow, but the words should be yours. You know your ex the best and, only you can tell what kind of text will intrigue your ex to reply to you.
If you think that your ex will respond to jealousy, then you should write about your new love interest. But if you think that your ex will respond to your casual messages, then that is how you should begin the conversation.
The no contact period is bound to get some distance between you two. In this blog, we will talk about the different kinds of messages that will help you break the ice and get over the awkwardness. Your messages should try to fill the gap and bring you both closer before you can take the next step to meet and resolve the issues.
Your messages should be like a gentle reminder of your existence. You want to tell your ex that you still think of them. But you can’t say that in these many words. You will have to be a little mysterious and play a little mind game with them.
So, read on and text to get your ex back.
1. Initiating Contact Messages
It is very difficult to initiate contact after a breakup. Most of the times you don’t know how to begin the conversation. You don’t want your first message to sound awkward. It should be smooth and natural. It should seem like you just want to know how your ex is doing.
You don’t want to drive them away by telling them in the first message that you want to get back together. You should rather take your time and keep them on the edge before you reveal your intentions. Sometimes you will have to play mind games to invoke curiosity.
Here are some of the examples of how you can initiate contact via text to get your ex back.
Example 1
“Hey. How are you?? Long time. How have you been??”
Example 2
“Hey. Was passing by your favorite restaurant. Thought of you. How have you been?”
Example 3
“Hey. Janny is in town. Was asking about you. How have you been?”
Example 4
“Hey. How have you been? Can you give me your dentist’s number?”
2. Casual Chit-Chat Messages
Initiating contact is the first hurdle. Once you can successfully pass that, then comes the casual conversation that will maintain the flow of communication. Once you get a favorable response you can start texting to get your ex back.
You must send pleasant texts and remind your ex of all the good times you have shared. Don’t say that you miss them as yet. Let them get comfortable texting you.
Your texts should be about your shared interest or anything that you know your ex will respond to. Always leave the text in such a way that it initiates further conversation. The messages should not be a dead end.
Here are some examples of casual chit-chat and how you can keep the conversation flowing.
Example 5
“Did you see the XX series’ latest movie? You were waiting for it so eagerly.”
Example 6
“Started squash again. Maintaining fitness is important :)”
Example 7
“Took a trip to Barcelona. You’ll love the place. It has everything you like.”
Example 8
“Our landlord got a dog. The breed that we were thinking of adopting.”
3. Apologizing for Mistake Messages
Admitting to your mistakes is very important to get your ex back. You need to apologize in person but do text it whenever you get the chance. You need to remind your ex how sorry you are and, an apology is the only thing you can give right now.
When apologizing, keep in mind that it should sound genuine. The text should show your hurt. It is not necessary to send a sad smiley. Your words should be powerful enough to convey the message.
But remember not to overdo it. If you think that your message has aggravated your ex, then stop right there and tell them you will not bring it up again. Save this conversation for when you meet.
Here are some examples of how you can apologize with simple words. Use these apology texts to get your ex back.
Example 9
“I know I have said it before but what I did to you was wrong. No amount of saying sorry can make up for it. But still, I am sorry.”
Example 10
“I know I hurt you and, no amount of words can tell you how sorry I am.”
Example 11
“Breaking up with you was the worst mistake I could ever make. I am sorry and I hope you can forgive me.”
Example 12
“ Let bygones be bygones. If we dwell in the past, then we will never move on.”
Example 13
“I know you didn’t mean to say what you did and, I am sorry for not understanding it then. I don’t want to remember the past. Let’s move on together.”
Example 14
“I have not been feeling like myself lately. Sorry if my messages bothered you.”
4. Missing You Messages
You need subtle reminders for your ex to tell them how much you miss them. Don’t throw them off guard by bringing up the topic out of nowhere. Nor expect a reply. Just express how much you miss them. Tell them you are reminiscing the times together and how happy you were when you were with them.
Break up was hard and you don’t want your ex to remember just the harsh words. Text little somethings that remind you of your time together. Do not directly say that you miss them, instead talk about some activity that you did together and how every time you do it alone you miss them.
This will put all the focus on the time spent together and not on the relationship or the breakup. Here are some of the examples to demonstrate how you can text to get your ex back, letting your ex know that you miss them.
Example 15
“I miss our little walk after work.”
Example 16
“I miss your cooking.”
Example 17
“I miss sharing my office stories with you and your genuine feedbacks.”
Example 18
“I miss how each year we used to take a trip together to unusual places.”
5. Flirty Messages
Flirt a little bit over text to get back with your ex. Their response to your flirty messages will tell you a lot about how they feel about you and this relationship. If they don’t like your flirty messages, then just stop and think of some other strategy.
But if the response is favorable, then you can plan for your next move by asking them out for a coffee or a movie. Sending cute little flirty messages can make you sneak into your ex’s heart.
Here are some examples of flirty messages.
Example 19
“Saw your photo on Instagram. You look hot. The new hairstyle suits you.”
Example 20
“You look great in your profile pic. Have you been working out?”
Example 21
“Was watching ‘Pretty Woman’. Julia Roberts always remind me of you. Your smile is just as bright.”
Example 22
“You looked great today. I like your new style.”
6. Expressing Love Messages
Expressing your love through messages can be a little tricky. You want your ex to know that you still care about them but not say the ‘L’ word.
Just telling your ex that you are missing them is not enough. You need to express your love as well. Drop sweet little messages that say that you still love and care for them.
These occasional messages will show your caring side to your ex and, they will miss the attention.
Here are some examples of how you can text to get your ex back by dropping subtle caring messages.
Example 23
“The weather has started to change, don’t forget to take you anti-allergens.”
Example 24
“Exams are coming up. Take care of your health, don’t overdo it. All the Best.”
Example 25
“Wish your folks Happy Anniversary from my side :)”
Example 26
“Hey, didn’t come to office today. Are you okay?”
7. Let’s Get Back Together Messages
We always advise that you need to discuss getting back together in person. But you should give a hint to your ex over the messages.
Use these text messages if your ex is still avoiding the subject to meet. This way they will know what you are thinking about this relationship. If they want to move ahead with you, then they will reply to your texts and meet you.
Use this as a last resort because if the response is not favorable, then your ex might avoid meeting you altogether.
Here are some examples that you can use to text to get your ex back.
Example 27
“Do you think we should give us another chance.”
Example 28
“We were so good together. Why did we ever break up?”
Example 29
“You complete me. This relationship needs another chance.”
Example 30
“We should not let this stupid misunderstanding get in our way. We deserve another chance.”
Conclusion
Dropping cute little messages is an excellent way to connect and bond with your ex. This way you can always be in their thoughts because we firmly believe that out of sight is out of mind. And we definitely don’t want that.
Being in the presence of your ex can be a little difficult after the breakup but through messages, you can always be near your ex.
Once you have successfully started chatting with your ex, you can initiate the one on one meeting. Text messages will give a base to start the real conversation. This will break the ice and any hesitation that you can encounter. So start to text to get your ex back and leave the breakup phase behind.
We hope that our examples will help you get in touch with your ex and begin the communication naturally. If you think our blog helped you to get your ex back, then do let us know. Leave your comments and suggestions below.
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