12 Signs You Still Love Your Ex and Want Him Back (Updated November 2019)

Some emotions can be so overwhelming that it gets difficult to know what you actually want. And there is nothing more annoying than being confused about your feelings. The post-breakup phase can be really confusing. You are always wondering what is it that you actually want and what is good for you.

A lot of people misinterpret their emotions during this phase and end up regretting it for the rest of their lives. It is normal to feel broken and hopeless after a breakup, but if you have been too stubborn about not paying attention to your underlying feelings, you might regret it later.

Things may not have turned out as you expected, but that doesn’t always mean there is no hope for the relationship. You might force yourself into believing that you are no longer in love with your ex-boyfriend when the truth is entirely different. Here are a few useful tips on how to find out if you still love your ex and want to get back with him.

1. You Can’t Stop Thinking About Him

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You find your mind drifting towards him, whether it’s the memories of the past or a situation in the present. Every other thing that you come across each day reminds you of him, be it the streets you walked together, the cafes or restaurant you frequented, or the favorite TV shows that you enjoyed together. Even the smallest thing reminds you of him.

You cannot stop yourself from thinking about him. You are always wondering what is he doing or whether he is also thinking about you. This can be a clear sign that you still love your ex. Don’t brush this feeling off thinking that it is something temporary. Act upon it and try to get your ex back.

2. You Try to Find Him in Every New Person You Meet

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Do you try to find his qualities in every new guy you meet? Do you find yourself being drawn to people you feel are similar to him? If you do, it means that it is actually him whom you need. If you are trying hard to move on, it won’t be possible if you still love your ex.

Every new person reminds you of him. You are constantly comparing the new guy with your ex. You keep thinking that no one is better than him or even comes close to being like him. These feelings show that you still love your ex and it is difficult for you to get over him.

3. Trying to Reason Away His Hurtful Actions

You try to justify his hurtful actions and are tempted to forgive him for whatever he did. Your heart and mind may not be on the same page in this case, and you can easily end up being torn between whether to despise or to forgive him.

You keep justifying his actions in your mind. You try to reason with yourself that it is okay and you are ready to move on and forget all about it. You want to give him another chance and you hope that these hurtful things will not be repeated. It just means that you still love your ex and you want to reconcile with him.

4. You Get Jealous Seeing Him with Someone Else

Have you spotted your ex with someone else and you weren’t very happy about it? It could have been just another friend or colleague, but you still feel jealous. Maybe that sense of possessiveness is still there, and you get jealous whenever you see him hanging out with other women.

You don’t want to accept that he has moved on and it hurts your pride. The feeling of jealousy takes away your reasoning. You feel venomous and vengeful. These emotions make you even more frustrated but the fact remains that you still love your ex.

5. You Feel Tempted to Visit His Social Media Profile

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You always have butterflies in your stomach when you see a post from him on social media. You feel tempted to visit his profile and check out what he has been up to after every few days, if not all the time.

You keep checking that what is going on in his life. You want to be updated and don’t want to miss out on anything. You feel bad for becoming an internet stalker but it is beyond your control because you still love your ex.

6. If there is a Possibility of Running into Him, You Make Sure You Look Your Best

Do you become anxious whenever there is a possibility of meeting your ex at some event or someplace? If you are making an effort to look good in such situations, then you definitely want him to notice you. Why would you want someone, in particular, to notice or appreciate you if you are not in love with that person?

You make sure to catch his attention by looking your best. You want to make him realize that what is he missing by not having you in life. These actions show that you still love your ex and want him back.

7. Old Photos and Messages Make You Emotional

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When you see old pictures of him or read old messages or emails, you become emotional. It feels like a long lost dream that has no connection with reality, but deep inside you yearn for those days.

You don’t want to delete these old photos. For you, it’s a happy memory that you want to visit again and again. Wanting to go down the memory lane shows that you are not over your ex and you still love your ex.

8. You’re Listening to Songs that Remind You of Him

There is a song for every stage of life. There are likely hundreds of songs that have a connection to your past relationship and reminds you of your ex. But you still just have to listen to those songs and they still manage to trigger emotions, ending in tears of joy or sadness.

There is a set playlist that brings all the memories and makes you nostalgic. You want to listen to these songs on repeat mode and be in that gloomy zone where you keep missing your ex. This is a clear sign that you still love your ex.

9. You’re Listening to His Favorite Songs

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Have you wondered why you still like the songs that used to be his favorites? Well, you could say they’re your favorite songs as well. Even so, why do you end up playing the tracks that he said were his favorites?

Maybe because you feel some kind of connection to those songs. These songs remind you of him and by listening to them, you feel closer to him. You want to like the same things he does because you still love your ex.

10. You Hope He Never Finds Someone New

You’re pretending not to care about if your ex is still single, deep inside you hope he is. And every time a friend mentions his name, you cross your fingers and hope they do not talk about his current love interest.

You fear that he might find someone new and totally forget about you. You are not ready for this change. You feel anxious because you still love your ex.

11. You Can’t Stop Talking About Him

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If you begin to talk about him, you forget to switch the topic and just go on and on. You hardly seem to realize that the person you are talking to could be getting totally annoyed. You like talking about him, even if that involves simply criticizing him and finding faults with him.

You are always eager to talk about the topic of relationships at the drop of the hat. You want to talk about your ex because you feel like venting about your emotions. These pent up feelings are because you still love your ex.

12. It Feels Like You Will Never Be Crazy About Anyone Again

You dated several men after the breakup but no one is quite like him. They were good people, maybe even better, but they still were not him. If this has been bugging you then you surely haven’t managed to get over him yet.

You believe that no one will ever understand you the way your ex did. Your feelings for him are so strong that you feel like you will go crazy if you don’t get back your ex. This surely means that you still love your ex and this feeling is not letting you move on in life.

Conclusion

Being in a state of denial is not doing your emotional balance any favors. Your ex could be trying to get back with you and start over, but your confusion may ruin the whole thing. If you had actually moved on, nothing about him, not his past, present or future would have made any difference to you.

You would not be searching for him in everyone you meet. It is better to face your feelings and deal with it rather than hide it away or suppress it. You need to, once and for all, face your emotions and be true to yourself. If you still love your ex, then you should do everything in your power to get back together and start fresh.

We hope that we were able to help you sort out your feelings. If you have any questions or suggestions, please leave them for us in the comments.